We are now in Ecuador for many years and have seen many people get married. When people in communities, we have an insight into the preparation for marriage and we have done our experiences. We support many marriages for years, others have long since parted and both parties have entered into a new connection. It does not matter whether it is a high social class or common people act without great education. Probably the most stable marriages are in the jungle area. On a simple level to be related: In Latin America one can get married very quickly and without sufficient preparation closed. The maturation process of making by the spouses during the first early years. Since then it crashes repeatedly and thoroughly. Most are then also with kids. As he moves out or goes back to her parents. And after some back and forth they both find a modus vivendi.
main obstacle is the connection to the parents. Newlyweds go in the first few years of course on Sunday for lunch with parents, particularly when both are working. Father and mother are happy and there is little time for a life of its own of the two. If he goes on trips, for example, lives in his time with mom. The first is the mother of this child selbstveständlich and directed this time. Since the man is a Foreign body. And it even comes to a discussion of the spouses need to be at the parents play referee.
It does not matter much whether the two are Christian or not. Of course, both the inner separation is explained by the parents as a prerequisite for a functioning marriage. But what the words mean, The man shall leave father and mother and cleave to his wife ...!, understand Latin very different from other cultures. Sometimes we think they do not understand it at all.
is a growing problem that working people want no more children. One wants the other does not, or the parents of a partner for as long pressure until it comes to breaking of the heart. Usually ends thus a connection after about a year.
see how we in the first years of marriage, a violent struggle, sometimes leaving and then coming together of the two. In that time, it is important that both partners have a meeting of the trust, a person with whom they can get rid of the frustration and neutral good cry. Then they are ready to go back and start over. It is important that we encourage them not to leave their partner. If the first two - three years are over, growing together something and they are stable. Then give the the best marriages, the others hold. So sends such a mother for her teenage children, one for older, married sister, so they're they could have done "where they received crucial impetus Or else, the pure speech of the parents and the eternal law problem will never end, then every 2 -.. 3 months," Holland in need "and a pastor for a few hours and days with the kittens of cracks busy.
An engagement period, something like a month-long preparation time, we know about this little. Many married a few weeks after getting to know. So must the process up for later. Also that is the job of missionaries here to play lightning rod.
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